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Confused

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Are you male or female:
Male

Is the person your question is about male or female:
Male

What is your age:
31

What are the ages of the other people involved:
29

What is your relationship status:
Single

What is the relationship status of the person you are dating:
Single

How long have the two of you been together:
3 yrs

Is this an online only relationship:
No

Have you ever had a date in person, face-to-face:
No

If this is a long distance relationship, how often do you physically see each other:
Does not apply

If you’re engaged, when is the wedding date:
Does not apply

If you’re engaged, but there is no wedding date set — why not:
Does not apply

Are you divorced or just separated:
Does not apply

How long have you been divorced:
Does not apply

How long has the person you are dating been divorced:
Does not apply

How many kids do you each have, and how old are they:
1 a 1 year old

What country do you live in:
US

Describe any cultural, religious or family influences impacting your relationship:
Does not apply

Me and my sons father broke up when i was 8 months pregnant. Our relationship after the break up was extremely bad. He had a new girlfriend and another baby. Our son is now almost 2. He missed his 1st birthday because his then girlfriend wouldn't allow him to go. He terrorized me for the past 2 years. He would brake my windows in my car and cut my tires. Recently he got arrested for domestic violence against her. He has been in jail for 3 months and has 6 months left. About a month ago he started calling me 4-10 times a day. Im a little confused. I don't know if he trying to be with me or if hes leading me on.. When i ask all he says is we are building a bond and it takes time. But she still post pictures on social media saying she misses him. Then the next day she hates him. Im a little confused. It took me 2 years to get emotionally stable and im not trying to be let down and him go back with her when he gets out. I want to know if his intentions are sincere or im i nieve?

Re: Confused

#2
I know you want him to be a good guy, but he isn't. He missed his son's first birthday. He terrorized you for two years. He broke your car windows, slashed your car tires and was arrested for domestic violence with his girlfriend. This isn't a good guy. He's troubled and he is calling you because he's bored, he's feeling trapped -- he's in jail -- and you're allowing him to play you. :oops: My advice is to shift focus from any relationship with this troubled guy -- to your own health. Try to focus on being stable and productive and being a good single mom. If you find someone to date who isn't violent or disrespectful, go for it -- but from what you've described here, this guy is bad news.

I think you're probably missing romance in our own life, so you're letting him fly under the radar you'd normally use to filter out bad guys. Focus on your loneliness and need for romance by looking for someone healthy to date. ;) But not this guy. Keep your boundaries with him, and don't take his calls from jail unless they're about your child together. Sorry -- I know this is tough, but you have to be in charge of your own life, and not let someone else call the shots.
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